The 5 Stages of Relationship Development Stage 4 – Expansion (Part Five)

April 29th, 2010

In the beginning of your relationship, where you were so connected to another that you lost sight of who you are separately from the other, you naturally then came to a place where you had to refocus on reclaiming who you are as individuals to prevent from being totally swamped by the other. invariably this move away from the other is made by one of you first. As this happens, the other of you is often left wondering – ‘where has the love gone?’.

As you work your way through this stage, a reconnection will happen but in a very different way to the connection you had in the first stage.

Your connection now feels more solid and even your sex life can feel new and more satisfying. This is not to say that it will be all clear sailing from here. There will be issues and disputes between you but you both think more positively about your capacity to deal with these issues and find a satisfactory resolution to them instead of automatically responding as you might have before in a more negative way.

This stage is also defined by, not just an acceptance of the differences between you, but by a celebration of those differences. When one or other of you highlights another perspective on an issue, it doesn’t feel threatening to the relationship but instead is applauded as it gives rise to conversations that allow both of you to take a closer look at what it is you each really believe and maybe to even modify that belief as you come to understand the others viewpoint.

What this means is that though there still may be times when you return to that old way of being, between feeling like you’ve finally made it and feeling like all is lost, this is mostly a time when you both feel more connected with each other at a more enduring and loving level.

This stage demonstrates then a very different quality to the “We”ness: one which includes a deep respect for the healthy existence of the two separate “I’s”.

If you successfully navigate your way through this stage you will feel more supported, than stifled, in your relationship. There are fewer statements of “I need….” from each of you and more statements of “I would like…” or “I really want…” in the knowledge that you can survive whether you get it or not. This is for you independently of each other as well as for you as a couple.

When your partner says ‘no’ to something you have asked for, you hear it as an expression of who they are rather than a harsh rejection of who you are. And when issues arise between you they are dealt with more quickly to the satisfaction of each of you rather than becoming long drawn out battles based on, not just the issue at hand but on every transgression that might have ever been committed.

Tasks for this stage:

The tasks for those of you going through this stage include expanding your ability to come close and then to move apart again as is appropriate to the situation. The principal want is to spend more time together as any threat of being swamped by the other has now been cleared.

This stage also highlights a developing sense of security between you and a readiness to give to the partner, even when it may be inconvenient to do so. While sexually there might not be the same passion as in the beginning stage the sexual connection becomes more about connecting emotionally and about seeing that each other is being satisfied rather than a focus on your own satisfaction only.

This stage is therefore really about setting the theme for how you will manage your relationship into the future.

To see what happens next keep an eye out for my next article.

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What Do Guys Want? Here is How to Finally Understand How Guys Think & What They Want in a Woman

April 28th, 2010

Men are quite basic in what they need. They are quite clear of what they want out of the woman they are with. If you keep getting confused in decoding what guys really want then here is a list that you can consider.

A woman who is independent
Men like women who are independent and self assured. They do not like it when the woman they are with begins to treats them like an emotional crutch or uses them to battle her own insecurities. Guys want women to be financially and emotionally independent and have an equal relationship with them.

One who has the element of femininity
He wants to be with an alpha woman who trail blazes in the board room but at the same time he wants her to maintain her feminine charm and nurturing nature. He does not want his woman to be one of the guys at all times. So make sure your femininity extends beyond the way you dress. Show him your nurturing and caring side. That is what a guy really wants.

His woman is very sexy
Guys want the woman they are with to be very sexy. But sexy does not mean slutty so take care in the way you dress and conduct yourself especially in the presence of his friends. You have to be his trophy and make him feel good because of the compliments that you garner for him.

Understands limits
A woman also has to understand that there is a limit and a boundary for every relationship that must not be crossed. Men value their personal space as sacred and do not like it when women like to take over this space. Think twice before you ask him to cancel boys’ night the next time.

She doesn’t use or manipulate him
Guys also do not want women to manipulate them with words or tears. Since they get all confused and uncomfortable when the waterworks begin, men often cave and do what his woman wants. But while doing so they feel manipulated and cheated.

She doesn’t humiliate him
Never ever humiliate him or talk about his flaws even in jest in front of others. Men do not take too kindly to self criticism and don’t find it funny if you discuss his personal habits and traits in front of others.

She never puts pressure
The ideal woman for a guy is one who never puts any kind of pressure on him. Be it the relationship pressure trying to determine where their relationship is heading, the pressure of commitment or something as small as changing the way the man is.

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Psychic Predictions For 2010

April 26th, 2010

In my psychic predictions, for 2010, I envision an energized year full of growth and opportunity, for all. Initially, I see a sharp thrust propelling us forward, into the New Year. The thrusts crescendo energizes the first several months of the year. In my psychic vision, I see the areas of macroeconomics, employment, personal finance, education, and relationships benefiting heavily during this period.

I foresee, in my psychic vision, the last week of January catalyzing the economic substrates created during 2009. I sense that the decisions made, and the information gleaned during this week act to energize the global economic matrix, thrusting us forward into the New Year. I see the equilibrium point, set in the last quarter of 2009, shifting to a higher level during this period. I sense that planning a viable financial strategy and action plan to capitalize on this shift leads to an increase in personal wealth.

I see, in this years psychic forecast, that April, and June add significant amounts of catalyzing reagents to this process increasing its rate of change. I see global resolutions, to long standing: environmental, monetary, and trade related issues, intensifying January’s initial economic thrust. This positive economic momentum continues to shift the equilibrium point higher, month over month, into July.

Fueled by a constant stream of positive data points fed into the economic system via the positive feedback loop of global economic news, local economic data, and continuing economic growth. I see, a psychic portrait, of a global economic system ultimately becoming whole during 2010; restored to its pre-crisis levels of economic activity, and wealth.

I also sense that although increased global debt levels appear to contradict this. An actionable plan emerges to unwind the global economic emergency measures set forth during 2009, in a timely fashion. This plan acts to mitigate any headwinds that may seek to hinder global restoration, and addresses the issues of trade deficits, protectionism, and global monetary policies.

Additionally, in my psychic prediction, I sense that employment issues slowly subside during 2010. Job creation moves to the forefront of the political agenda. This acts synergistically with the initial macroeconomic thrust initiated during the last week of January ultimately acting to free up credit markets. I sense that as a direct result global demand for goods, and services increases. With this, increase of demand a need for increased production levels, inventory levels, and employees’ results.

I also foresee a psychical shift towards higher educational ideals this year. Green energy, preventive medicine, and efficiency become the buzzwords, for 2010. I see education shifting focus onto the green collar, biotechnological, engineering, and information systems careers of the future. I sense that retraining of the current work force, to fill niches in the emerging job markets of tomorrow, becomes a priority as well this year.

With increased financial stability, I see relationships stabilizing and becoming less strife ridden. I also sense that 2010 provides an opportunity for those looking for that special someone, to find them. I sense that our focus shifts away from the fears associated with finances, and careers. This releases essential energies needed to: find a soul mate, engage in social activities, and form solid relationships. Overall, in my psychic prediction for 2010, I feel that this year promises to strengthen existing relationships, and foster a nourishing environment for new relationships to take root.

In summation of my psychic predictions for 2010, I sense that restoration and wholeness set the tone for the year ahead. I foresee personal finances, career opportunities, educational opportunities, and relationships all receiving an energizing boost during 2010. I sense 2010 restores us as a people. This restoration occurs on a personal, national and, global level. I believe the seeds planted, in 2009, bear their fruits, in their time, during 2010. Because of the events that occur during 2010, I foresee that we make it through the mistakes of the past. These mistakes do exact a hefty price, however, in the form of a permanent change to our global, local, and personal landscapes.

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